As a guy, it is safe to say that most of us want to please women in bed. For some that will be because they are caring types who want other people to be happy. For others it will be a way of proving their own worth. The woman will just be happy if she has an orgasm.
However, it seems there are a number of things that guys are doing wrong in bed. These things were discussed by women on Reddit and because we are a helpful bunch, we are going to bring them to you. With any luck you can read, learn, and stop doing them!
1) Doggy Kisses
“Sometimes… he wants to shove his tongue down my throat and literally licks the inside of my mouth like a dog.”
Yes, it is a good idea to to get your kissing technique up to scratch. Trying to choke her with your tongue is a bad move!
2) Poor Foreplay
“Do not underestimate the power of touch. Touch me. Touch you. All over. I want it all.
“I want to touch you in places and in ways you’ve never been touched, and I want the same. Rub my body, damnit.
“There’s nothing like foreplay that’s long and teasing, or after sex when they’re still so damn irresistible to you that you want to prolong contact.”
This is what they want, but sadly it is not always what they get. For many men, foreplay is the time it takes for them to get hard. If you want your woman to get off, rushing this part of the encounter is a really big no-no.
3) Going Too Fast
“One of my friends was hooking up with a guy and he didn’t know where her clit was but was going at her with jackhammer fingers so much so that she was afraid to even show him where it actually was.”
Women are very sensitive down there, so be slow and tender. There is no need to go, as this girl says, like a jackhammer. Trust me, you will get a lot of thanks for not tearing her clit apart!
4) Thinking Porn is Real Sex
“Once, I dated a gorgeous man. Gorgeous. Model-type features, tall, well-educated… Just… Amazing… But he had sex like he was in a bad porno.
“No exaggeration, jack rabbiting and changing positions every 10 seconds. 15 seconds in the same position was generous. And he wasn’t particularly smooth with the transitions so it was the most disjointed sex and most unsatisfying I had ever had.”
Yep, too many guys think you are meant to have sex like you are in a porn movie. In fact, this is not what women want. It is about as realistic as your wife coming in while you are shagging the babysitter and instead of kicking your ass, joining in.
Enjoy porn yes, but it isn’t some sort of guide.
5) Drinking Too Much
“When my fiancé gets intoxicated he either loves to get kinky or is not able to ejaculate.
“If I am super drunk it’s not a problem but it has caused an awkward moment before to say the least.”
Yep, drinking can be good for sex, but it can also make things awkward, especially if your are more drunk than your partner.
So, if you want to give your partner great sex, maybe ease off on the alcohol that night.
Well, we hope that was useful for you. We never know what we are doing wrong until we are told. Therefore, we suspect many of you out there will be thanking us if you manage to practice what we preach!
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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