Threesomes are a huge male fantasy. If you go to any survey on the top male fantasies, the threesome will be top. This is likely because it is so bloody difficult to get to do in real life.
There will of course be people who can attain it. They may have a bisexual partner who feel the need to scratch that particular itch. However, they will be outnumbered by those with partners who would be willing to cut your balls off if you brought it up as an idea.
Problems With The Threesome
Women are often very conscious about bringing other women into their bedroom. They are likely to feel it is an indication that they aren’t enough for their partner in the bedroom, and that is before they get into feeling nervous that they don’t look as good as the other person, or they may not have sex as well.
Men are likely to have worries about bringing other men into the bedroom, but that is usually restricted to not wanting to see another guy’s penis. There will be others who don’t like watching a man smash their wife as well.
The reality of all this is that most men, if they want to do it, usually have to head to some duo escorts who will help the fantasy become reality.
However, what is also apparent is the fact that it isn’t something men get much practice in. We all remember when we used to have sex when we were young. If you look back, you will realise that we were pretty bloody awful. Our foreplay would be minimal and rubbish, and as for penetration, well, let’s not even go there.
When doing a threesome for the first time, we return to the level of virgin again. The only difference is that we now have two women in front of us who we don’t know what to do with, rather than one.
Communicate
Escorts can really help in this situation as they are able to show you the ropes as to what you should be doing. However, for them to know you need help in this situation, they will need you to tell them you are a novice. That way they can impart their knowledge.
If you are doing it in what I would lazily call the ‘real’ world, you are more than likely going to be doing it with people who have as little clue as to what they are doing as you do. This usually ends one way, and that is with the man having normal sex with one woman, whilst the other just sits there bored and waiting for her turn. If this person getting bored is the guy’s partner, then this whole threesome will just be seen as an excuse for him to have sex with someone else. You don’t need me to tell you how that can cause problems.
Research Positions
This is why the man needs to make sure he does the required research as to what positions can be used so to make the threesome fun for everyone involved. Have you heard of the ‘Daisy Chain’ or the ‘Eiffel Tower’? Well done if you have. If like me you hadn’t, then take a look at the article by Lara Mills on threesome positions to use.
Safe Sex is Key
You also need to be careful about safe sex, namely the use of condoms. It is vital that you change condoms between partners. To put it bluntly, if you put your covered penis in one woman and then go straight to the next, you will then transfer one woman’s fluid to the other. That is how STI’s occur, and you really don’t want that. They certainly don’t.
Pay Attention To Both People
In the aftermath, it is also vital that you pay each person the same attention. This is a threesome, and not a twosome with someone as an added extra. This is the case during the sex, and after. If you just cuddle up to one person, then I can safely say that the other one will feel they have been completely used. This will cause serious problems post-threesome.
This is all about four words. Communication, research, safety, attention. If you can get this sorted, I can’t guarantee that things will be all hunky-dory, but by paying attention to those four things, you will really be helping your odds of having the experience you dreamed of.
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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