Anal is one of the things that often sits at the top of many kinky bucket lists. Despite how much people talk about sex now, it is still considered a taboo. It is something that you are a bit of a rebel for doing. And yet we can’t stop doing it. We love how it feels, and it is a lot of fun. But sometimes, anal hurts!
People talk about whether anal should or shouldn’t hurt. But the issue is that answering that question doesn’t tell you what you can do to stop it from hurting, and how you can make it more pleasant for the pair of you in the future.
Should anal sex hurt?
In reality, when anal is done right it shouldn’t hurt. The problem with painful anal comes when you do it wrong. This can be for a number of different reasons.
For a start, you might find that you are going too fast. Instead of taking your time to work up to anal, you might be rushing things. This might be fine with things like vaginal sex, because their pussy will produce its own lubricant. However, the ass doesn’t. So with no lube and not enough preparation, the ass won’t be ready for anything slipping in there.
This is why things like foreplay and lube are so important during anal, but people don’t always like the idea of using lots of lube. They think a little will go a long way, and while this is true, you need more for anal. Otherwise anal hurts. Your ass won’t be relaxed enough to enjoy it. So how do you fix this?
Forgetting foreplay
No matter what kind of sex you enjoy, foreplay is a vital part of it. Without good foreplay you’ll find that any sex just doesn’t feel good enough. Foreplay makes it so much better, and anal is no exception.
You’ll want your partner to be as turned on as possible. The more turned on they are the more they are going to enjoy it, but this isn’t the only reason. When you partner is turned on, they will be much more relaxed and eager for anal.
This also means that their ass will be more receptive to your cock. Instead of trying to force your way in, anal will be so much easier. It will feel better for you both, so what more could you want?
Too fast
We get it. You are really keen to enjoy anal. You want to either slide your cock into their ass and see how good it feels or you want to bend over and feel their length inside of you. But rushing it is going to mean that anal hurts. Instead of it feeling pleasant, you’ll just feel pain.
You’ll need to work your way up to cock. We know that this isn’t what you want to do, but if you take your time with anal you’ll find the experience a hell of a lot more pleasurable.
Start with a finger in the ass. You don’t have to slide the finger in all of the way. In fact, you only have to go a little way to feel how good it is. When you are ready, you can slip more it. You can even buy toy specifically for anal training, so you can work your way up to dick.
The important thing is not to rush it. If you rush it you could tear your ass. Given how much bacteria can be found back here, this isn’t something you want. It could lead to an infection as well as a lot of pain, so take your time.
Not enough lube
The ass is not self-lubricating, so if you want to try anal, you’ll need lube. Lots and lots of lube. Don’t skimp on the lube simply because you don’t feel like using as much. Instead you should use more than you think you need. If you have too much you can always wipe it away.
It is better to have too much than not enough. It will make things so much smoother and easier for you in the moment.
The temptation here could be to then go and buy things like numbing lubes to make it hurt less. This is a bad idea. The pain is good in a way because then it tells you when you are going too far. If anal hurts then it is a sign you need to take a break. When you using numbing creams you don’t know when to stop and can do some serious damage, so stick to standard lubes instead.
Sometimes, anal hurts
Unfortunately no matter how much preparation you do, you might find that anal hurts. This could be for a number of different reasons. Perhaps your partner has a larger than average cock that you need longer to work up to, or maybe your ass is tighter than others. This can make anal more difficult.
Hopefully these tips above will help you start to enjoy anal more. Find that it still hurts? Let us know your problem in the comments below and what you have tried. We will be able to give you more advice, and the other users here on Escort Scotland might have their own tips to help you. Have you found that anal hurts? Vote in the poll and let us know.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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