It may no longer be as controversial as it once was, but anal sex is still far from the norm in the bedroom. Anal sex is still considered by many to be painful, un-hygienic and dangerous – and like many sexual practices this can be the case. However, if you keep a few key points in mind it’s fun, sexy and feels amazing. So, if you’re planning on putting anal on the sexual menu with your girl, there are a few do’s and don’ts to consider so that you both get the most out of the experience.
1) Do use a lot of lube
One of the key reasons people are put off by anal sex is because they have told it can be painful. A simple solution? Lube; and plenty of it. Unlike the vagina which produces its own lubrication, the anus does not. There are plenty of lubes available on the market, and some companies make lubes that are designed specifically for anal penetration. These tend to be thicker which ensures that the slipperiness will not evaporate before the fun is over. However, any lube works and will create a safe and comfortable experience for you both.
2) Do use protection
So she can’t get pregnant, but anal sex doesn’t prevent the spread of STIs. In fact, the spread of STIs in more likely with anal penetration than vaginal as the skin around the anal area is thinner and is more susceptible to tiny cuts and tears. So unless you’re both 100% certain that you are both monogamous and disease-free, a condom is essential.
3) Do build up to it
We get our partners in the mood before vaginal sex, and you should do the same with anal sex too. Try inserting a well-lubed fingertip or an anal sex toy into your partner, allowing her to mentally prepare and for her muscles to relax before the main event. There are plenty of anal sex toys available on the market, but pick something narrow to begin with. Remember, you’re not trying to stretch the anal opening, your simply allowing it to expand slowly.
4) Do let her take control
This may seem obvious, but you can’t be as rough or enthusiastic as you probably are when it comes to vaginal intercourse. Especially if she’s new to the experience. Let her get used to it by going slow and gentle to begin with and allowing your partner to call the shots. How fast, how deep and how hard should be determined by her, and if she says stop, stop immediately. Make sure you and your partner both enjoy the experience of anal sex or she may decide that anal is no longer an option.
5) Don’t try anal if she’s pregnant
Anal sex during pregnancy should be avoided for a couple of reasons. The first is that a common side effect of pregnancy is haemorrhoids, and you don’t need to be a doctor to know that it could make anal sex very painful. Secondly, during anal sex there is always a risk that bacteria can be transferred from the anus to the vagina – this is a risk that’s worth definitely avoiding during pregnancy.
6) Don’t penetrate elsewhere afterwards
Leading on from the point above; don’t penetrate her anus and then immediately penetrate another part of her body i.e her mouth or vagina. It is common to pick up bacteria at the back door which could lead to infection elsewhere, and this will surely put your partner off trying anal again. So be sure to wash your penis thoroughly before inserting it elsewhere.
7) Don’t use numbing cream
Many companies have began selling creams and gels which are designed to decrease the sensations in her anus – these may seem tempting if your partner is worried of the pain, however we recommend avoiding these at all costs. Not being able to feel the sensations in that area could be dangerous, since if she’s unable to feel any pain she could get seriously hurt without realising it. Instead of numbing the pain, as mentioned above, why not prepare her with plenty of anal foreplay? There are plenty of anal toys on the market to tease her with, or simply use your tongue or finger before the main event. The most important bit is making sure she’s relaxed and comfortable before you begin.
Done right, anal sex can feel amazing – but as with anything, it takes practice. If you do decide to give it a go then keep these dos and don’ts in mind. For those who are still unsure, there are plenty of other online guides that cover the basics. Or why not go one step further and talk to a fun and friendly Inverness escort? An escort in Inverness likes to experiment and are more than happy to answer any questions you have and offer advice.
The most important thing is to take your time, relax and enjoy the thrill of exploring something new and exciting.
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